As a new Christian, you might be wondering, “What is spiritual intimacy, and how do I get it?” The short answer is: it’s not something you get – it’s something you grow. It simply takes time and effort.
Here’s the good news: God is always available to you, and He will always do His part. All you need to do is incorporate a few basic practices into your life, and He’ll do the rest.
Keep showing up.
Set an expectation for yourself that you’ll attend a church service every week, and schedule it on your calendar. The Bible tells us to gather together as believers because God knows how much we need each other. When you show up, you worship, you learn, and you form relationships. You’ll need a strong foundation as you face life’s trials and temptations. What happens at church on Sunday is an important part of building that foundation. (So are the two practices that come next.)
Talk to God.
As with any relationship, communication is vital. God wants to hear from you, and you can communicate with Him through prayer. Tell Him about your deepest hurts and greatest joy. Ask Him for help when you need it, thank Him for your blessings, and confess when you’ve made mistakes. There isn’t a special formula to prayer. Your prayers don’t have to be long or full of fancy words. Just start talking to Him daily – and keep talking to Him. He will treasure every single prayer as your relationship continues to grow.
Read your Bible.
Praying is how you talk to God, and reading the Bible is the primary way in which God talks to you. The Bible is full of stories of people just like you and what God did in their lives. PK is serious when he says to take a 12Stone Bible home if you don’t already have one. Do this and begin the practice of reading a few verses or a chapter each day. A Bible-based devotional is also a great tool to help you begin.
How long will this take – to feel like I’ve grown spiritual intimacy?
There isn’t a defined “arrival” point. Some people feel connected to God quickly. Others struggle to feel a connection and start to believe they must be doing something wrong. That’s a lie the enemy would love you to believe – so that you’ll stop trying to build spiritual intimacy. Don’t give up! The key is consistency and trusting God to meet you where you are. Keep showing up, keep talking to God, and keep reading your Bible. He will surely reward your efforts, and your connection will continue to grow.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”