Keep Battling What Beats You

Humble yourself, get past your pride.

There are places we are vulnerable to peer pressure and signature sins. It’s only when we let God transform those innermost places that we can be defeat what beats us.

A temporary “feel good” fix (like alcoholism, addiction, drugs, pornography, etc…) only starts to make us loathe who we are. Beyond getting over our pride, we have to keep battling what breaks and beats us. This is only done by letting God battle with us.

How Do We Forgive the Unforgivable?

When Jesus taught us to pray, we are to forgive OTHERS as He forgives us. So Jesus immediately recognized that we need to forgive others.

We have to practice forgiving other people. When we forgive others, we release them from our own bitterness, not God’s accountability.

If we don’t release bitterness, it could destroy our lives. As difficult it is for us to forgive others, to that degree we learn what it cost God to forgive us.

Letting Go of Bitterness

We live in a fallen world where people hurt each other, and we’ve all been wounded. Sometimes the more you open your heart, and the closer the relationship, the deeper the pain. If you have pain from your past that you’re clinging to, follow the example of Jesus. Of His 12 disciples, one betrayed Him, one denied Him, and they all abandoned Him in His hour of greatest need. Jesus chose to forgive them – and forgive us – and sacrifice His life to restore us all to our Heavenly Father.

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Ephesians 4:31-32

Receiving God’s Forgiveness

Sometimes what holds us back from the better life God has for us is that we’re unwilling to receive His forgiveness. It’s true that none of us deserve it. All fall short of the glory of God.  But Jesus died on the cross to cover our sins and give us the gift of salvation. We simply have to accept this life-changing gift!

Davey Blackburn: One Year Past Tragedy

Davey has walked through some profoundly dark days of grief as a pastor, widower, and single parent. Now a year later, his perspective has shifted, and he is hopeful for his present and trusts God for his future. He challenges us to walk differently through tragedy and to minister to others amidst their suffering. Today, Davey chooses to walk through tragedy with triumph.

“Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”

– Psalm 23:6


Davey Blackburn: God Amidst Tragedy

No one is immune to tragedy and sorrow in our sin-fallen world. In this video, Resonate Church Pastor Davey Blackburn shares his personal story of heartbreak and loss. After his pregnant wife was shot, he was determined God was about to perform a miracle – and instead, he tragically lost his wife and unborn child to a senseless act of violence. Rather than angrily turning away from God, Davey grew closer and more dependent on the Lord as He allowed Jesus to shepherd him through his grief.

Fair Fight

Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13

Love Redefines How You Fight

5 Fair Fight Lessons from Love:

1) “Love cares more for others than for self”  (Sponge)
Love absorbs annoyance.

2) “Love doesn’t fly off the handle”  (Frying Pan)
Love lets things roll off your back.

3) “Love doesn’t keep score of wrongs”  (Wastebasket)
Love trashes the list.

4) “Love isn’t always me first”  (Hammer & Nail)
Love hears before it’s heard.

5) “Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have” (Measuring Cup)
Love is content (or discontent will undo you).

Get Wisdom

  • Wisdom is the God-given ability to see life with rare ____________
    and to handle life with rare ______________.
  • Wisdom in parenting is ________________   _________________.
  • The Beginning:  ________________ is the beginning of wisdom.

(Proverbs 9:10)

The 3 Irreducible Boundaries:

  1. R___________________________
  2. S______ – ________________
  3. F______________________

The Culture

Main Thought:

Where there is no F________, the People P__________
(Matthew 7:15-27, page 972)

3 Practices:

•    B________ a Filter for W__________

•    B___ a Filter for R_______________

•    B______ a Filter for I____________ *

Q:  Which of the 3 practices need more practice?

The Freedom

One Life Principle:

There is NO Freedom without Boundaries

  • Earthly Anchors (…of boundary setting)
  • Eternal Anchors (…of boundary living, Jonah)

~ Book of Jonah, page 925

Q:  Is it time for you to ‘get right’ with God?

“Let them give up their evil ways and their violence.  Who knows? God may yet relent and with compassion turn from his fierce anger so that we will not perish.”   ~ Jonah 3:8-9

The Tension

3 Huge Decisions – to manage, not remove:

• Loving without E_______________
(John 3:16-18, page 1065)

• S___________ without S______________
(James 4:1-3, page 1218)

• E______ without H______
(Proverbs 12:24, 24:30-34, page 640, 653)

Q:  Which of the 3 tensions most needs your attention?