Get Comfortable Praying with Each Other

Nowhere in “The Lord’s Prayer” are there personal pronouns – there’s no “I,” “me,” or “my.” It’s always “our” Father and “us.” When we come into relationship with God through Jesus, we join a bigger family. And prayer becomes a part of that family, so we pray together to our Father.

Because we share the same Father, we should be comfortable praying together and right in the moment.

Trip & Andrea’s Marriage Restoration Story

On the verge of divorce, Trip & Andrea decided to try out church at 12Stone’s Buford Campus. Once they visited, they knew they never wanted to leave! Their hearts began to change and knew that their marriage is worth saving.

After meeting with a pastor, they joined a ReEngage Marriage group and today have a great restoration story!

This year (2018), a permanent location is being constructed for the Buford Campus. 12Stone is excited as we know this opens up opportunities for more stories of impact and redemption for the Buford community.

Guiding a Family to Solve Conflict

We can resolve conflict in family by following the guidelines God models for us:

  • There is righteousness: Discuss and determine what is right, not who is right.
  • There is unrighteousness: Acknowledge what is wrong.
  • Someone has to repent: Apologize and return to what is righteous.
  • Someone has to forgive: Absorb the loss and restore the relationship.

When we let the peace of God reign, there will still be conflict, but now we have way to solve it.

Create a “Closed For Business” Sign For Your Family

Work is important, but it’s only one of the important things in life. We need to find a way to be “closed for business” for our families.

This means putting limits to work so you can do family and limits to family so you can do work.

Kevin and Marcia navigated this conflict in time between work and family by setting some rules:

  • Quitting: “closed for business” at certain times of the day.
  • Interruptions: no interruptions at work.
  • Phone: no business calls when at home.

These rules help keep both family and work important. When someone is “on”, they’re fully on. When someone is “off”, they’re fully off.

How Families Can Withstand Pressure

Two different families may come from the same mold, but we won’t know the difference between the two until pressure is applied; job, finance, emotional, psychological. Once the pressure comes there is no amount of skill or training that can compensate for being hollow – it all falls apart.

If families are built from the inside out, they can sustain pressure from the outside in.

Don’t Just Care, Connect

God created us to connect in community, and through Christ’s work on the cross, we are one church family united as brothers and sisters with one Heavenly Father.

Practice the values of living in community and serving others. Connect with God and one another – because real heroes restore relationships.


You Can’t Be a Hero if You Only Care About Yourself.

Romans 12 teaches us to “be devoted to one another in love and honor one another above ourselves…” because we all make up the body of Christ, and each person is equally important.

Do you serve your church, family, and community – or do you wait to see whether they’re serving you? Resist the urge to compare your contribution against everyone else’s and invest yourself in others.


Are You Too Busy to Be Present?

There are times in life in which we can be so busy that we’re around God, but we’re not actually with God. We don’t sense His presence, and we certainly don’t feel His peace. That’s when we know it’s time to change our priorities. We need to create space in our schedules to be present with Him because He is always present with us.

Two Ways We Tend To Get Stuck

When God tells us to build something, we tend to get stuck either from never starting or never finishing.

Never Start: You cannot get comfortable with the gap between what God has let us see, and all that God sees that we don’t. We sit and wait for God to tell us the whole picture. But, that wouldn’t require faith.

Never Finish: Noah could’ve given up on the ark along the way, but a half-built ark wouldn’t have saved his family! Most people have half built arks in their lives. You dreamed and you saw something and you got stuck in the building. Get back on the job site and finish the build!


Lead Your Kids

Scripture: Romans 8

The Truth: As a parent, you have the greatest potential to influence your child.

The Dare: We dare you to lead your kids (maximize your potential).

  • Love Unconditionally
  • Engage Fully
  • Affirm Frequently
  • Discipline & Dream


Dare: (Grow Your Relationship)

  • Pray Daily
  • Meet One-on-One Weekly

Double Dog Dare: (Grow Your Leadership)

Do You Know the Rules About Rules?

Scripture: Exodus 20, Deuteronomy 4

Our Dilemma:

We don’t know how to live in a world with rules; AND we don’t know how to live in a world without rules.

3 Rules about Rules:

  1. Everyone “Believes” in Rules
  2. Rules have to “Match” the Ruler
  3. You don’t “Break” the Rules, they “Break” you!

Question: What rule are you “pretending to break” that is breaking you?

Challenge: Which of the 10 Commandments needs to become your rule?

Honor vs Dishonor

Scripture: Mark 6:4-5, Matthew 10:40-42

Honor is the gift of communicating and demonstrating the value of people in relationships and roles.

The ROI of Honor:

  1. You will extend life.
  2. You will reap what you sow.
  3. You will be open to receive from the giftedness of others.

4 Ways to Trend Honor in your life and leadership:

  • Share words of affirmation.
  • Show your appreciation.
  • Give the credit to others.
  • Pass the ball.


Scripture: Acts 2:42-47, Proverbs 22:29, Ephesians 2:8-10

“Excellence is the gracious expression of creative energy in the service of others.”

-Dorothy Sayers

Excellence is doing all you can with all that you have at the moment.

“Excellence honors God and inspires others.”

-Bill Hybels

Excellence as a Mindset:

  1. You were designed by God.
  2. You were made to live in God.
  3. You were made to work for God.

Excellence as a skill set:

  1. Discover your place to serve others.
  2. Refine thinking that doesn’t serve you well.
  3. Develop habits that serve your future.
  4. Do more than is required.


  • Where is there mediocrity in your life that you want to bring excellence?
  • Where would be that place you would jump in and serve?


Scripture: Joshua 24:14-15; 1 Corinthians 12

Set The Target:
Commit to Direction; You Can Change.

Pull The Trigger:
Commit to Action; You Can Serve.


  1. Where’s the target of your life? (What needs to change to get on target?)
  2. Where do you serve the Kingdom?

Keep the Faith

Scripture: 1 Timothy 1:18-20

Need to Know:

  1. We all battle with Drift
  2. We all need Accountability

Need to Do:

  • Choose Accountability as a “Cool Gift”
  • Choose to be Accountable for a Holy Life
  • Choose People who Choose #1 & #2.


  • Have you chosen small groups as a coo/mutual gift of encouraging accountability?
  • Invite 2 people to join you to meet regularly for life accountability?


Scripture: Acts 2:42-47

3 Major Family Moments:

  • God creates family; Family is God’s idea.
  • Sin distorts family, it brings family dysfunction.
  • With the church God creates a new family.

5 Family Values of the Church:

  • We accept the outsider.
  • We are loving one another.
  • We are real with one another.
  • We speak the truth to one another.
  • We continue to have a mission beyond ourselves.