How Families Can Withstand Pressure

Two different families may come from the same mold, but we won’t know the difference between the two until pressure is applied; job, finance, emotional, psychological. Once the pressure comes there is no amount of skill or training that can compensate for being hollow – it all falls apart.

If families are built from the inside out, they can sustain pressure from the outside in.

Don’t Just Care, Connect

God created us to connect in community, and through Christ’s work on the cross, we are one church family united as brothers and sisters with one Heavenly Father.

Practice the values of living in community and serving others. Connect with God and one another – because real heroes restore relationships.


You Can’t Be a Hero if You Only Care About Yourself.

Romans 12 teaches us to “be devoted to one another in love and honor one another above ourselves…” because we all make up the body of Christ, and each person is equally important.

Do you serve your church, family, and community – or do you wait to see whether they’re serving you? Resist the urge to compare your contribution against everyone else’s and invest yourself in others.


Are You Too Busy to Be Present?

There are times in life in which we can be so busy that we’re around God, but we’re not actually with God. We don’t sense His presence, and we certainly don’t feel His peace. That’s when we know it’s time to change our priorities. We need to create space in our schedules to be present with Him because He is always present with us.

Two Ways We Tend To Get Stuck

When God tells us to build something, we tend to get stuck either from never starting or never finishing.

Never Start: You cannot get comfortable with the gap between what God has let us see, and all that God sees that we don’t. We sit and wait for God to tell us the whole picture. But, that wouldn’t require faith.

Never Finish: Noah could’ve given up on the ark along the way, but a half-built ark wouldn’t have saved his family! Most people have half built arks in their lives. You dreamed and you saw something and you got stuck in the building. Get back on the job site and finish the build!


Lead Your Kids

Scripture: Romans 8

The Truth: As a parent, you have the greatest potential to influence your child.

The Dare: We dare you to lead your kids (maximize your potential).

  • Love Unconditionally
  • Engage Fully
  • Affirm Frequently
  • Discipline & Dream


Dare: (Grow Your Relationship)

  • Pray Daily
  • Meet One-on-One Weekly

Double Dog Dare: (Grow Your Leadership)

Do You Know the Rules About Rules?

Scripture: Exodus 20, Deuteronomy 4

Our Dilemma:

We don’t know how to live in a world with rules; AND we don’t know how to live in a world without rules.

3 Rules about Rules:

  1. Everyone “Believes” in Rules
  2. Rules have to “Match” the Ruler
  3. You don’t “Break” the Rules, they “Break” you!

Question: What rule are you “pretending to break” that is breaking you?

Challenge: Which of the 10 Commandments needs to become your rule?

Honor vs Dishonor

Scripture: Mark 6:4-5, Matthew 10:40-42

Honor is the gift of communicating and demonstrating the value of people in relationships and roles.

The ROI of Honor:

  1. You will extend life.
  2. You will reap what you sow.
  3. You will be open to receive from the giftedness of others.

4 Ways to Trend Honor in your life and leadership:

  • Share words of affirmation.
  • Show your appreciation.
  • Give the credit to others.
  • Pass the ball.


Scripture: Acts 2:42-47, Proverbs 22:29, Ephesians 2:8-10

“Excellence is the gracious expression of creative energy in the service of others.”

-Dorothy Sayers

Excellence is doing all you can with all that you have at the moment.

“Excellence honors God and inspires others.”

-Bill Hybels

Excellence as a Mindset:

  1. You were designed by God.
  2. You were made to live in God.
  3. You were made to work for God.

Excellence as a skill set:

  1. Discover your place to serve others.
  2. Refine thinking that doesn’t serve you well.
  3. Develop habits that serve your future.
  4. Do more than is required.


  • Where is there mediocrity in your life that you want to bring excellence?
  • Where would be that place you would jump in and serve?


Scripture: Joshua 24:14-15; 1 Corinthians 12

Set The Target:
Commit to Direction; You Can Change.

Pull The Trigger:
Commit to Action; You Can Serve.


  1. Where’s the target of your life? (What needs to change to get on target?)
  2. Where do you serve the Kingdom?

Keep the Faith

Scripture: 1 Timothy 1:18-20

Need to Know:

  1. We all battle with Drift
  2. We all need Accountability

Need to Do:

  • Choose Accountability as a “Cool Gift”
  • Choose to be Accountable for a Holy Life
  • Choose People who Choose #1 & #2.


  • Have you chosen small groups as a coo/mutual gift of encouraging accountability?
  • Invite 2 people to join you to meet regularly for life accountability?


Scripture: Acts 2:42-47

3 Major Family Moments:

  • God creates family; Family is God’s idea.
  • Sin distorts family, it brings family dysfunction.
  • With the church God creates a new family.

5 Family Values of the Church:

  • We accept the outsider.
  • We are loving one another.
  • We are real with one another.
  • We speak the truth to one another.
  • We continue to have a mission beyond ourselves.

Play Under Pressure

Scripture: Philippians 2:1-11

Pause everyday for family prayer.
Rewind everyday to build up.
Fast Forward everyday to thrive.

“Your pressure is not a prison to escape, it’s a platform to embrace.”

Play by choosing joy under pressure.

  1. Go to the source.
  2. Adjust your focus to others.
  3. Align your attitude with Christ.

Fast Forward to Thrive

Scripture: Hebrews 10

1) Freedom to Unmask
2) Blind Spot Love
3) Fast Forward Potential

Proverbs 10:12 – “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers all wrongs.”

Pause For Family Prayer, Rewind To Build Up, & Fast Forward To Thrive:

  • Which of these 3 do you naturally give to your family?
  • Which of these 3 do you need to improve?

Rewind To Build Up

Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5

“Nothing gets better with neglect.”

1) Don’t just consume; Connect.

2) Don’t just Unwind; Rewind

  • What today made you sad?
  • What today made you mad?
  • What today made you glad?

3) Don’t just Blah, Blah, Blah; Build Up (1 Thessalonians 5:14-18)

  • Do your part.
  • Be patient.
  • Build Up

Challenge: Commit your family to come to the table for the next month. (No tech, no toys. At least 4 nights a week, 30-60 minutes & practice rewind to build up)

Pause For Family Prayer

Two family truths:

  • Family dysfunction just happens in every family.
  • Family dynasty takes work.

3 ways pausing for family prayer helps build your family dynasty:

  • It centers your home on Christ. (Colossians 3:1-4)
  • It makes God normal at home. (Deuteronomy 6:4-7)
  • It unleashes God’s power at home.

Self-centered people can’t build family dynasties. Selfishness can only bring more dysfunction.

Keep it simple. Be consistent. Start today.

“God, we thank you for…”
“God, please help us with…”