Learning to Value Others

When things are going very well, it’s easy to slip into self-importance. We start to believe we’re the very reason the business or marriage is so extraordinary. But things don’t typically grow and prosper forever. Difficulty usually sets in.

When God has us in a season of humility and things aren’t going so well, perhaps He’s teaching us to value others.

Get Past Your Pride

Learn to live good in secret.

We need the power of the Holy Spirit down deep in our secret places because The Holy Spirit by the power of Christ will make us good form the bottom up.

When we become good in the secret hidden places, instead of trying to act good on the outside, we become good on the inside at the core, and good blossoms up!

This is how pride is beaten at the innermost core of ourselves.

Self-Correct

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Healthy Relationships Have 3 Habits:

  1. Close enough to listen.
  2. Clear enough to compromise.
  3. Committed Enough to self-correct.

What I Need To Know:

  • Trust is the foundation of relationships.
  • Self-correction is the foundation of trust.

What I Need To Do:

  1. Keep my word.
  2. When I mess up: The evidence of the other person’s love might be forgiveness; but the evidence of my love is self-correct to keep my word. (striving to require less and less forgiving for the same thing)

Questions:

  • Is it time for you to finally surrender to God (walk with God)?
  • Will you make these 3 healthy habits the practice of your marriage? 

Choosing Humility

Relationships are the playing field for humility. How you respond to leaders, bosses, teachers, and coaches will demonstrate whether you have humility. The good news is humility is a choice you can make, and while God opposes the proud, He shows favor to the humble.

“Humility is healthy self-forgetfulness.”

Tim Keller

Are You Really In Control?

Worldly success can make you believe you’re more powerful than you are. You start to credit yourself for your life’s successes, and you begin to believe that you’re in control of what happens next. But you’re not God, and it’s evil when you act like you are.

Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil.”

James 4:13-16

Life’s setbacks at home, at work, and in your health will quickly humble you and remind you that you’re not the One who’s in control. Trust God to guide you through life even when you don’t understand why something is happening. Allow Jesus to bring you peace as you step out in faith.

Everyone is a Leader

Scripture: 2 Samuel 5-12

Quality #1 – Humility

  • The temptation of pride: My leadership is from me and it is for me.
  • The truth of humility: My leadership is from God and it is for others.

Quality #2 – Initiative

  • Leaders solve problems.
  • Leader make progress.
  • Leaders help people.

Questions for reflection:

  • What will you do to carry your leadership with humility?
  • What problem have you been sitting in that God is telling you its time to solve?
  • Who is in your backyard that you could help?