Is Trauma Necessary For Our Kids to Know God Intimately?

Satan will use the trouble and trauma from your past to create fear in you for your children. As your children mature, share with them appropriate information from your past. Tell them about the difficulties you endured and how God was there to comfort you and restore you. Show them how God redeemed the situation. Doing this will transfer some of your intimacy with the Lord to your children. Life is never easy. Your kids will need that foundation when their own troubles arise.

Real Dads Live “Real Trust“

Abraham understood his health, wealth, and family were all rich blessings from God. By trusting God and not questioning Him when He asked Abraham to sacrifice his son, Isaac, Abraham proved he trusted God – no matter what.

In the end, the story of Abraham and Isaac on Mt. Moriah was not a test of God’s love for Abraham, but a test of Abraham’s love for God.

How Ernie Johnson Trusted God During His Cancer Fight

When Ernie faced cancer and the battle for his life, he experienced waves of fear and anxiety. He wrestled with questions like, “Why me?” and “God, what do you want from me?” These are typical questions we often ask when our lives seem to fall apart. Ernie learned this: If you’re going to trust God in life’s mountaintop moments, you need to trust Him in the valleys, too.

 

Fighting For Family Dinner Time

Date Nights should be about fun, dreaming together, and discussing shared values. Fight Nights should be about listening, compromising, and self-correcting. Many people use their Date Night as their Fight Night. Separate the two and learn how compromise fits into the bigger picture of your life. Pastor Kevin shares how he and his wife compromised to create a regular family dinner time.

The Evidence of Love is Keeping Your Word

Just as God forgives our sins and asks us to grow and stop sinning, we need to correct our behavior in our relationships and strive to be holy. Pastor Kevin explains it like this, “When I mess up, the evidence of the other person’s love might be their forgiveness of me; but the evidence of my love, is when I self-correct to keep my word.”

Marriages Stuck In Disillusionment

In Sustaining Love: Healing & Growth in the Passages of Marriage, Mennonite Pastor and Author David Augsburger wrote about the four stages of marriage. The stages include: Dream, Disillusionment, New Dream, and New Depth. In the Disillusionment stage, all you can see is each other’s differences, and marriages often get stuck in this stage. There needs to be a breakthrough to advance to the next stage of New Dream. Breakthrough can happen when you learn to self-correct.

Self-Correct

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Healthy Relationships Have 3 Habits:

  1. Close enough to listen.
  2. Clear enough to compromise.
  3. Committed Enough to self-correct.

What I Need To Know:

  • Trust is the foundation of relationships.
  • Self-correction is the foundation of trust.

What I Need To Do:

  1. Keep my word.
  2. When I mess up: The evidence of the other person’s love might be forgiveness; but the evidence of my love is self-correct to keep my word. (striving to require less and less forgiving for the same thing)

Questions:

  • Is it time for you to finally surrender to God (walk with God)?
  • Will you make these 3 healthy habits the practice of your marriage? 

Can God Count On You?

Just like Peter told Jesus He could count on him and then didn’t keep his word at the time of the crucifixion, we sometimes tell God He can count on us, and then we abandon our word, too. But, also just like Peter, God is quick to forgive and restore us into people He can count on. In the end, Peter proved he was a man Jesus could count on. We can, too.

Just Trusting God

God never promised us heaven on earth. He promised us heaven after earth. But He did promise us that while we’re here, He would be with us, guide us, and in all things, work them together for our good. We just need to trust Him.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Romans 8:28

Are You Really In Control?

Worldly success can make you believe you’re more powerful than you are. You start to credit yourself for your life’s successes, and you begin to believe that you’re in control of what happens next. But you’re not God, and it’s evil when you act like you are.

Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil.”

James 4:13-16

Life’s setbacks at home, at work, and in your health will quickly humble you and remind you that you’re not the One who’s in control. Trust God to guide you through life even when you don’t understand why something is happening. Allow Jesus to bring you peace as you step out in faith.

God’s Plans, Not Ours

Our plans falling apart can cause us to doubt God. This happens to us today in modern times, and it happened in Biblical times, too. The stories of Jesus’s earthly parents, Joseph and Mary, and the story of Zechariah, father of John the Baptist, are great examples of lives and events that didn’t go according to human plans.

Trust God when He’s carrying out His plans and not yours. You simply can’t predict the amazing work He’s going to accomplish.

Trust God When Plans Fall Apart

Many of us hold a mistaken view of God. We don’t speak about it – and we rarely acknowledge it – but deep in our hearts we carry a misassumption. We falsely believe that if God can do all things, and He truly loves us, He should accomplish all our plans.

The truth is, even though it’s unsettling when our plans fall apart, God can be trusted and Jesus will bring us peace.

That’s why we celebrate Christmas (the birth of Jesus). God sent His son to cover our sin debt, restore our relationship with Him, and bring us peace.