Build Sacred

4 things that keep a family together: 

  • Build Solid
  • Build Sacred
  • Solve Calendar
  • Solve Conflict

Build Sacred: Since Jesus is at the center; we set our hearts and minds on things above. New things become Sacred (holy set apart). We “die” to old things we once valued and value new things we once dismissed.

What is sacred in your family?

  • Togetherness
  • God First
  • Authenticity
  • Gumption
  • Bless Others

Homework: Define what is sacred in your family (5 to 7 things).

  • Ideas: Use today’s teaching; use the 10 commandments (Exodus 20); or use the “Value Exercise Cards” to start the conversation
  • Note: Perhaps what becomes “sacred” is distinct at different stages of life; dating, married, with young kids, with teenagers; empty nesters.


Scripture: Acts 2:42-47, Proverbs 22:29, Ephesians 2:8-10

“Excellence is the gracious expression of creative energy in the service of others.”

-Dorothy Sayers

Excellence is doing all you can with all that you have at the moment.

“Excellence honors God and inspires others.”

-Bill Hybels

Excellence as a Mindset:

  1. You were designed by God.
  2. You were made to live in God.
  3. You were made to work for God.

Excellence as a skill set:

  1. Discover your place to serve others.
  2. Refine thinking that doesn’t serve you well.
  3. Develop habits that serve your future.
  4. Do more than is required.


  • Where is there mediocrity in your life that you want to bring excellence?
  • Where would be that place you would jump in and serve?


Scripture: Joshua 24:14-15; 1 Corinthians 12

Set The Target:
Commit to Direction; You Can Change.

Pull The Trigger:
Commit to Action; You Can Serve.


  1. Where’s the target of your life? (What needs to change to get on target?)
  2. Where do you serve the Kingdom?

Keep the Faith

Scripture: 1 Timothy 1:18-20

Need to Know:

  1. We all battle with Drift
  2. We all need Accountability

Need to Do:

  • Choose Accountability as a “Cool Gift”
  • Choose to be Accountable for a Holy Life
  • Choose People who Choose #1 & #2.


  • Have you chosen small groups as a coo/mutual gift of encouraging accountability?
  • Invite 2 people to join you to meet regularly for life accountability?


Scripture: Acts 2:42-47

3 Major Family Moments:

  • God creates family; Family is God’s idea.
  • Sin distorts family, it brings family dysfunction.
  • With the church God creates a new family.

5 Family Values of the Church:

  • We accept the outsider.
  • We are loving one another.
  • We are real with one another.
  • We speak the truth to one another.
  • We continue to have a mission beyond ourselves.