Our Forgiveness is Bought by Jesus’ Endurance

Our forgiveness was bought by Jesus’ endurance and sacrifice. Jesus had to endure the cross (the B-Zone) for our forgiveness. Now he sits at the right hand of the throne of God (the C-Zone).

Following God comes by our endurance and surrender. We will hit the B-Zone when we choose to follow God. We will get weary and lose heart. Jesus would encourage us to not quit on God because He has not quit on us!

Mad at God

PK shares a story of when he raced his wife in the car and only “won” by breaking the law.

Setbacks in life are often because of our own sin. We often become mad at God, but the truth is we bring it on ourselves.

When we experience loss in life, it is always due to Sin (personal or universal). We try to blame God for hardships.

In reality, just as the officer was justified in pulling Kevin over for breaking the law, God has a case against us because we messed up His perfect paradise (Garden of Eden).

Choose to Go into Your World and Serve

God’s answer for the people near you, but far from Him, is you.

God just doesn’t use us, He partners with us. The pressure of God isn’t all on us, His spirit is with us. We join Him! It’s our privilege of who we are in Christ.

We join God in reaching those around us. God clarifies this mission to us in 2 Corinthians 5:19-20:

“And He has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: be reconciled to God.”



Whatever God Breathes Into, Counts the Most

We need to train ourselves to recognize the things God breathes into. These are the things that count most in life!

When God breathes into things that matter, what is right, what His values are, He makes them larger in our lives.

But the world can take away from the things that God breathed into, like motherhood. Being a mother, is a sacred role, but our world has a way of lessening that.

Bless, Train, Send – Overview

12Stone is called to live for a bigger purpose:

Because of the rescuing hand of Jesus, we pursue personal transformation, one life at a time.

Transformation is the river that runs through everything that we do. We bless, train, and send. Jason Berry provides a brief overview of the layers and complexities in these:

In Christ, we live in God’s grace. Therefore, we invite you into God’s blessing to bless others.

In Christ, we live up to God’s potential for us. Therefore, we encourage you to a life of intentional growth.

In Christ, we live out God’s mission. Therefore, we challenge you to go into your world and serve.

Trip & Andrea’s Marriage Restoration Story

On the verge of divorce, Trip & Andrea decided to try out church at 12Stone’s Buford Campus. Once they visited, they knew they never wanted to leave! Their hearts began to change and knew that their marriage is worth saving.

After meeting with a pastor, they joined a ReEngage Marriage group and today have a great restoration story!

This year (2018), a permanent location is being constructed for the Buford Campus. 12Stone is excited as we know this opens up opportunities for more stories of impact and redemption for the Buford community.

We’re Here to Train You to Bless Others

PK uses an illustration of visiting a restaurant contrasted to visiting a church.

When we go to a restaurant, our expectation is to be served. The restaurant’s purpose is to serve the customer, not to turn the customer into a waiter.

In contrast, the church’s purpose is to make us “waiters” and not keep us as “customers.” The church is first here to help people come to Christ, then to help us have a spirit of blessing others.

We weren’t meant to a reservoir of God’s blessing, but a river of God’s blessing to others. God blesses us so we can bless others.

Join Jesus To Live Bigger

Rescued – Transformed – Sent (Pattern)
“Father, as you sent me into the world, I have sent them (my disciples) into the world.” John 17:18 (LiveSent)

2 Challenges:

1) Live for a Bigger Why! (Join Jesus)

  • “Because of the Rescuing hand of Jesus, we pursue personal transformation, one life at a time.”

2) Live for a Bigger What! (Join Jesus)

  • Transformed people bless, train & send.
  • We invite you into God’s blessing, to bless others!
  • God is a blessing God, so we are a blessing people.

LiveSent: How to Get Unstuck

Transformed people bless others, train others, and live sent.

We can all get stuck on the “other side” of the table, living just for ourselves. Our faith becomes all about ourselves. We talk about churches like we talk about restaurants: “This is how well they served me.”

So how do we get unstuck from living for self? We live a sent life. We make our lives about serving others.

Live Better Than Living for Self; Live Sent

We can live for ourselves or live sent by God. Living for one’s self leads to a broken and empty life, while living sent by God leads to a blessed and fulfilled life.

Paul’s life is a prime example of how God transforms lives from living for self and living sent. God first rescued Paul from his selfish life, transformed it, then sent Paul into the world as an apostle. This is the pattern God uses in all of our lives.

30th Anniversary

Live better than living for self; Live Sent.

1) Remember (why we do this)

  • We are here to join Jesus in rescuing those who are near us but far from God.

“Father, as you sent me into the world, I have sent them (my disciples) into the world.”

John 17:18

2) Rejoice (what God has done & is doing)

  • Rescued people rejoice.

3) Re-Up (for what God is going to do next)

  • Rescued people live transformed lives. They bless, train, and send.
  • Re-up to LiveSent = Wherever God has you on the map, you’re on mission to serve people.

Adversity Tests Perspective

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.

James 1:2-3

The original Greek translation of the word “consider” means to evaluate or gain perspective. James is telling us that overcoming adversity requires having the right perspective. In other words, our outlook on life determines our outcome.

Endure Adversity

1st Quarter (Sean Myers)

  • Adversity tests perspective.
  • We lose perspective when we lose sight of the promises of God.

2nd Quarter (Cameron Glasper)

  • God uses adversity for our advantage.

3rd Quarter (Steve Walton)

  • It’s not about being a perfect follower.
  • It’s about being a praying follower.
  • Wisdom isn’t just knowing what to do.
  • Wisdom is applying what you know to do.

4th Quarter (Kevin Myers)

  • Gut it out for good.
  • Chase the trophy that lasts.

Interview with Hasani Pettiford

Kevin interviews Hasani Pettiford, founder of Couples Academy, on how to navigate conflict within marriage. Hasani gives us key techniques that we can focus on in marriage to solve conflict:

  • Communicate effectively in what you say, how you say it, and your body language
  • Make the Bible the final authority
  • Give up the need to have to be right


Guiding a Family to Solve Conflict

We can resolve conflict in family by following the guidelines God models for us:

  • There is righteousness: Discuss and determine what is right, not who is right.
  • There is unrighteousness: Acknowledge what is wrong.
  • Someone has to repent: Apologize and return to what is righteous.
  • Someone has to forgive: Absorb the loss and restore the relationship.

When we let the peace of God reign, there will still be conflict, but now we have way to solve it.

Solving Conflict Within Ourselves

Often, we over react to problems in life because we already have pressure within ourselves.

In this illustration, PK uses beachballs floating in water to show that a full beachball is much more difficult to keep down than a deflated beachball.

Here’s the point. In Colossians 3:8, Paul advises that we rid ourselves of anger, rage, etc.. (pressure) and surrender ourselves completely to Jesus. If Jesus rules us from the inside out, he removes the pressure within and any pressure we may bring into our marriages and families.


Solve Conflict

4 things that keep a family together: 

  • Build Solid
  • Build Sacred
  • Solve Calendar
  • Solve Conflict

Solve Conflict:

  1. Conflict Within
  2. Conflict In Marriage
  3. Conflict in Family
    • There is righteousness (right).
    • There is unrighteousness (wrong).
    • Someone has to repent (sorry & return to righteous).
    • Someone has to forgive (absorb loss & restore relationship).

Homework: As a couple or family, agree to solve conflict by God’s ABCD’s. Solve conflict when it comes, solve it direct, and honest. Repent and forgive and return to building solid.

Create a “Closed For Business” Sign For Your Family

Work is important, but it’s only one of the important things in life. We need to find a way to be “closed for business” for our families.

This means putting limits to work so you can do family and limits to family so you can do work.

Kevin and Marcia navigated this conflict in time between work and family by setting some rules:

  • Quitting: “closed for business” at certain times of the day.
  • Interruptions: no interruptions at work.
  • Phone: no business calls when at home.

These rules help keep both family and work important. When someone is “on”, they’re fully on. When someone is “off”, they’re fully off.