Guarding the Interests of Others

Under pressure, half-selfish always defaults to selfish. Instead of being half-selfish, guard the interests of others. Do as the Bible instructs and put other’s interests before your own. Serve people selflessly and lovingly. Find inspiration from the Apostle Paul in Philippians 2:3-11.

To become selfless, seek God’s help and tap into the power of the Holy Spirit. Walk the path of “dying to self.”


“Half-selfish” is when we’re all about getting what we want and fulfilling our own selfish desires, but we need someone else’s help to make things happen. It’s selfishness wrapped up in a pretty package to make it appear as though it’s something else. We might want to be about others, but we’re still all about ourselves. Jesus’ disciples understood this tension all too well.


We Can’t See Our Own Selfishness

The Bible teaches us in Matthew 20:28 that “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.” We admire that kind of selflessness in Jesus and the people around us. We just don’t want to live that way ourselves! The truth is we want others to live selflessly so we can continue to live selfishly.

Often, we can’t even see our own selfishness because we’re so blinded by the wounds inflicted upon us by someone else’s selfishness.


Does the Life of Jesus Flow Through You?

As a follower of Jesus, you are filled with “living water.” What will you do with that life-giving, life-changing power?

Dr. Benji Kelley, guest speaker from Newhope Church, teaches that you can be a reservoir, or you can be a river. A reservoir stores water and grows stagnant while a river passes water through it to others.

Don’t hoard God’s love and redemptive power. Let it flow in you and through you.

If Our Kids Are Bullied, Do We Teach Them to Turn the Other Cheek?

What you teach your kids about bullying depends on their age and developmental stage, but there are certain principles that Christian parents should live by.

First, we need to teach our kids that not everyone loves like Jesus.

Second, we need to teach our kids that they don’t have to endure bullying and they can talk with their parents when it happens.

Third, we need to commit to helping our kids by addressing the issue with the proper authorities (teachers, school administrators, the parents of the bullying child).

Jesus said to turn the other cheek, but that doesn’t mean we should become a whipping post. Our kids have the right to know that they can push back against bullies.

(Bonus) How Should We Speak up About When We See Injustice?

First things first, settle your tone. How you speak is just as important as what you say. Never represent Jesus in a hateful, disrespectful tone.

Go to God about what grieves your spirit and allow Him to guide your response. Only after you’ve settled your frustrations in prayer, go make a meaningful difference.

And beware social media! You must go beyond mere words for your life to point others to fresh hope and transformation through Jesus Christ.

Keeping To God’s Moral Compass Today

We must approach questions by first understanding our circumstances: we are an outside-in (God-centered) people living in an inside-out (me-centered) world. The secret comes from Jesus’s high priestly prayer in John 17:15-16:

My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one They are not of the world, even as I am not of it.

As God’s children, we must be in the world without being of it. That means we must draw close to God and His church, because we must be continually reminded of where our center lies: in Christ alone. When we feed ourselves on God’s Word and His Will, we find the strength to lead from that space as we respond to the culture.

(Bonus) Self-Condemnation

Jesus never condemns people. Sin does that to people and Satan condemns.

Condemnation often comes because we’re either listening to other people or listening to the influence of Satan, or we’re not listening solely and first to God.

Sitting in condemnation is often an unrecognized form of pride. For some people, it’s their way of not accepting forgiveness.