What Is One Thing You Wish Someone Would Tell You in Your 20’s?

While there are many different areas where good advice is always welcomed, focusing on our decisions and our destiny during our younger years is wise. Good decisions compound over time; they pay off the older we get. Bad decision also compound, but in a negative way.

The choices we make have incredible consequences for the life we ultimately live.

What Are Some Practical Resources on Christian Theology?

There are different intellectual roadblocks for some people on their journey to Christ, so we must first understand what those roadblocks are before recommending a resource.

For philosophy, “How Should We Then Live” by Francis Schaeffer is a good resource; for historical/archaeological evidence, Josh McDowell’s “Evidence That Demands a Verdict”; C.S. Lewis and Ravi Zacharias are great resources as well.

As PK says, we can’t argue someone into heaven, but we can be prepared to answer their questions with integrity and authority.

How Do I Know My Calling?

When it comes to our personal calling from God, wrestling over what that looks like isn’t a one-time thing. God knows exactly how to position His children where they need to be to fulfill His calling. But as we seek to know our calling, we should remember that our design reflects our destiny. There are six things we can consider when it comes to our calling: our history, our intensity, our capacity, our opportunities, our spirituality and our personality. The pressure is all on God to get us where He wants us to be.

How Do We Pursue a Calling and Marriage Simultaneously?

Before Christians should get married, they should talk all about their respective callings. Our callings are primary before marriage, but once we are married, our marriage becomes primary. If two people with strong callings don’t discuss their callings before getting married, there will be challenges. Figuring out how two callings work together requires compromise, prayer, and a commitment to one another above everything else.

How Can We Distinguish Between Moral Outrage and Authentic Passion?

We have more access to information about what’s going on in the world than any generation ever before. But in our relationship with God, He gives us a heart for certain things. We should have a heart for all of what goes on in the world, but we should only invest in some of what we see and hear. We don’t want to become de-sensitized to what’s going on, but if we find ourselves feeling hollow—if we read tragic stories without much emotion—we need to sit with God and ask for Him to restore our sense of compassion.

Should We Give Beyond Tithing?

Scripture tells us in Ecclesiastes that there is a time and a season for everything. There may be seasons of abundance in our financial journeys when we feel prompted by God to use that abundance as an offering to the church, to individuals, or to organizations. This is honoring to God when done in obedience to him.

There may be times, however, when we are pressed to give and we’re uncertain as to the wisdom of the timing because of our circumstances, or because we don’t know if it was actually the Holy Spirit prompting us or a professional fundraiser guilting us into giving. When uncertain, wisdom would tell us to take into consideration the long-term picture of our financial plan and to make decisions that fit into that plan.

Should We Tithe Before or After Taxes?

When referring to the tithe (a word that means 10%), Scripture uses the word first fruit, or first portion. While taxes are withheld from paychecks before we’ve had a chance to calculate tithe, taxes should actually be viewed as a secondary portion. Thus, to be considered a first fruit, the tithe would be calculated using the gross, before taxes are taken out.  Scripture further instructs us to bring the whole tithe to the storehouse—in our case, the church.

Ultimately, our attitude toward tithing reflects the posture of our heart towards God when it comes to our finances. Part of the spiritual discipline of tithing is letting go of the control of those tithes and trusting God with the money, as well as trusting him to provide for our needs. As if he knew we would need further convincing, God tells us in Malachi 3:10 to test him in this:

“Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.”

How Should Christians Build Relationships With Non-Believers?

Being in the world, but not of it, does not mean that we as Christ followers should isolate ourselves from people who don’t share our beliefs. Jesus spent an enormous amount of time relating to non-Jews, much to the consternation of the religious leaders of his time.

Engaging with non-believers can give us opportunities to demonstrate with our actions and our lifestyles how following Christ can make a difference in how one does life. This does not mean, however, that we engage in activities that are not Christ-honoring in order to reach out to the lost, rather, we invite them into our world and into our lives and into our church and make them a part of who we are.

The church should be a place of insulation and refuge for the lost, not a place of isolation and refuge from the lost.

How Should We Share Our Faith Without Being Preachy?

The desire to share Christ with unchurched friends can be outweighed by a fear of coming across as being too pushy or preachy. It is said that actions speak louder than words, so the life we live and the love we share can be the most effective means of opening the door to conversation.

When our relationship with Christ is evident in how we relate to others, how we date, how we handle money and disappointment, and how we do our work, others will want to know what makes us different. As we answer their questions and share the difference Christ has made in our lives, the next natural step is to invite them into a relationship with Christ as well.